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Would You Let Your Child Wear an "I Love Boobies" Bracelet?

A federal judge says they're okay, what do you think?

 

Moms Talk is a new feature on our Patch sites designed to reach out to moms and families throughout the Lehigh Valley. It’s a place for moms, dads, aunts, uncles, grandmas and grandpas – basically anyone with a little one in their lives – to ask questions and seek advice and support. We hope that Moms Talk will become a resource for you on the thousands of issues that arise while raising children and also be the place to drop in for a talk about the latest parenting hot topic.

Our growing Moms Council plays a vital role in Moms Talk each week – by suggesting Moms Talk topics and by being among the first to join the conversation.

Meet the members of our Moms Council:

  • Lisa Amey, of Upper Milford Township, is a stay-at-home mom to an 8-year-old son and a 5-year-old daughter. A past president of the MOMS Club of Emmaus and long time member of MOPs (Mothers of Preschoolers), Lisa is an Independent Consultant for Arbonne International. 
  • Lisa Drew, of Emmaus, is a certified nutritionist and personal trainer, wellness and fitness coach with more than 17-years experience. She is the mother of a 13-year-old girl and a 9-year-old boy.
  • Jennifer Elston, of Emmaus, has almost two decades of professional experience in child development and counseling.  She is currently a stay-at-home mom to two beautiful girls. Together with her husband, Chris, she owns Christopher Elston Photography.
  • Lisa Merk, of Lower Macungie, is a stay-at-home mother of four boys – a 12-year-old and 6-year-old triplets. Lisa is a past president of the MOMS Club of Lower Macungie East. In her “spare” time, Lisa teaches piano to school-age children.  

This week’s Moms Talk question comes from one of our Patch editors:

The “I Love Boobies” bracelet controversy is back in the news. Federal District Judge Mary A. McLaughlin ruled last week that the Easton School District had gone too far in suspending two 13-year-old girls for their “I Love Boobies” breast cancer awareness bracelets. The judge said that the bracelets cannot be considered “lewd” or “vulgar” in spite of the district’s claims to the contrary. She also said that the school district had failed to prove that the bracelets had caused or would cause any disruption in school. The Easton school board voted last week to appeal the decision. 

In light of the recent court ruling, would you allow your child to wear an “I Love Boobies” bracelet? Would you let you child wear the bracelet to school? Why or why not?

Share your thoughts and stories with us in the comments. 

If you would like to become a part of the Moms Council and/or have ideas for future Moms Talk questions, please email jennifer.marangos@patch.com.

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Lisa Merk

3:17 pm on Sunday, April 17, 2011

While I think it a bit extreme to suspend the girls for wearing the braclets, I would not let my children wear them to school or at all for that matter, there are SO MANY other ways to support breast cancer awareness. I personally find them inappropriate for a young teen to wear, espeically in mixed company at school. If you want to bring attention to the issue there are certainly more diplomatic ways to do it, and no need to "sex them up" if you will. If you see a 13 year old boy wearing a braclet saying "I LOVE BOOBIES" is your first thought really, "Oh they're supporting breast cancer!" Not mine and I can guarantee you, not a 13 year old boys' either. Now, if you saw a group kids wearing pick shirts or hats or even an individual wearing the pink ribbon logo, you'd know what that was representing. I totally support breast cancer awareness, I just think there are better ways to do it.

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Dillon Sievers

1:13 pm on Friday, May 4, 2012

im 17 and i agree that maybe middle shoolers dont understand why they are wearing them. they just want to because is says boobies on it. i wear mine for my mom. but i think the reason it says " I love Boobies" is beacuse that is the only way you can draw attention to it and also have something that is removable, small, and not pink. i dont see any better ways to advertise supporting breast cancer awarness except thorugh teens. we are the next generation and if we dont understand these things before we are older, we never will. btw i think it should be your kids choice weather or not they wear them.

Gerry Haines

4:46 pm on Sunday, April 17, 2011

Not in amillion years, it is only a distraction, and please tell me who filed this suit with the judge, two 13 year old girls, not in in their lifetimes. I agree, no suspension, but the rules are, nothing that would interfere with learning and you can not tell me this doesn't. Thirteen years old boys do not need anything else in this day, plenty of other ways to supporty breast cancer. They are inappropriate period...............

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Jennifer Elston

4:58 pm on Sunday, April 17, 2011

While I do believe in upholding freedom of speech, I believe there is as time and place for everything. I agree that a suspension was over the top, however the bracelets don't belong in the school. The word "boobies" is hardly offensive but I question the motive of the children wearing them. I don't think young people are wearing them to show support. I think they are wearing them and acting deceptively coy. I guess the bracelets did raise awareness of breast cancer, and they were created just for that purpose--to create a stir. But there are plenty of other tactful ways to raise awareness.

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Jennifer Elston

5:00 pm on Sunday, April 17, 2011

So, to answer the question--No, I would not let my kids wear the bracelet:)

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Dillon Sievers

1:16 pm on Friday, May 4, 2012

why? do you not support this cause? why dont you explain to them what it means and then let them decide for themselves instead of letting them grow up in ignorance.

Penny Cope

6:04 pm on Sunday, April 17, 2011

OMG....U NEED TO LET CHILDREN LEARN AND BE WHO THEY ARE THEY NEED TO EXPRESS THEM SELFS IN A WAY THAT SHOWS A POINT BUT DOES NOT HURT ANYONE... IF U SAY THAT THEY R A DISTRACTION THEN I GUESS ANYTHING THEY WEAR IN CLOTHING OR JEWERLY WOULD BE A DISTRACTION AS WITH HAIRSTLYES...IT'S OK TO TRY TO BE PROTECTIVE OR STEER THEM AWAY FROM CERTAIN THINGS BUT SOME CARRY IT WAY BEYOND THAT AND OVERDO IT...THOSE KIDS WILL NO DOUBT GO BEHIND THEIR PARENTS BACKS AND DO IT ANYWAY....LET KIDS EXPRESS THEMSELVES SO THEY CAN GROW AND LEARN AND IDITIFY ....

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Pbrmommy

6:27 pm on Sunday, April 17, 2011

Yes I would let my children wear the bracelet, and they do. I don't find the offensive, I think they have raised a lot of money for Breast Cancer, and if kids want to wear them to school they should be able to. As long as they are wearing them for the right reasons.

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Dianne Troxell

7:20 pm on Sunday, April 17, 2011

As a 15 year plus survivor of Breast Cancer myself, the answer to your question would be yes and no.
Yes to the fact that as everyone knows, Pink is the color of Breast Cancer awareness...........and the word 'boobies' is just another word for Breast..................so, that being said..............A pink bracelet with the words 'I love my boobies' is, in my mind, innocent compared to an awareness to this horrible disease!!!!! I've seen bumper stickers on cars, heard the word boobie on tv, etc. and no one makes a big deal out of that! If just one woman over the age of 18 spotted a bracelet on someone (even if on a child, teenager, etc.) made her realize she needed to do a self-breast exam on herself, or make an appt. to be checked could possibly save her life, it is very worthy indeed!!!!!
And the reason I also stated a 'no' is only in the necessity that these bracelets BE pink! Anything other than the 'color pink' for Breast Cancer awareness is indeed wrongly taken.

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Lisa Amey

7:23 pm on Sunday, April 17, 2011

At their current ages, just hearing the word "boobies" makes my kids giggle. Hopefully, some day they'll be mature enough not to. When that time comes, whether it's these bracelets, the "Save the Tatas" car magnets, the pink ribbon paraphenalia, or whatever else there might be in the future to promote breast cancer awareness, I would support my kids sporting them if they truly understood it's purpose. However, I would discourage them from wearing them to school if it was an object of controversy, because there are other ways to show support in the school environment.

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Lyn Boger

8:10 pm on Sunday, April 17, 2011

I think it's very sad that the company that made these bracelets knew they would attract the younger crowd, and they are capitalizing on the corruption of minors. If they intended for them to solely support breast cancer awareness, they would all be pink. If we let our children wear these bracelets knowing they are not wearing them for the right reason, then we only have ourselves to blame if our children are disrespectful and ignorant. My sister is a breast cancer survivor, but I would not allow my son to wear them. I don't blame the schools for banning them, if parents refuse to teach their children morals, and pride, someone has to. I don't believe any young boy is wearing these to support breast cancer awareness. If they say they are, and that they care, then ask them to wear a pink t-shirt to make the statement, I bet they wouldn't.

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Dillon Sievers

1:22 pm on Friday, May 4, 2012

curruption? they were designed to stand out among everything, thats how you spread awarness. our generation is the next, so if this is how we will be informed then ok, whatever it takes. and morals? really? i was stopped at churcha and told to take it of so i explained to them what it ment to me about my mother. they eralized i didnt wear it just because it sayed boobies. and yes i would wear a pick shirt even though i hate pick. thats why i choose a black and white braclet. plus i wouldnt be able to wear a pink shirt all the time but i can wear my braclet wherever i go and spread awarness.

Lisa Merk

8:41 pm on Sunday, April 17, 2011

I just wanted to add, LMMS held an "I got pink'd" day in October (breast cancer awareness month) and a majority of the school participated (boys and girls). They were asked to purchase pink shirts and wear them along with other apparel deemed appropriate. All 12/13 year old boys I know supported the cause and proudly wore their shirts. Point was made, cause was supported, money was rasied and no one was offended or suspended!

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Lisa Drew

9:06 pm on Sunday, April 17, 2011

Simply, yes! There is nothing wrong with the bracelets. They are being worn to show support for a very important cause. Boobies, tatas, breasts all mean the same thing. Nothing to be ashamed of. Women have them. As long as the kids are being educated that is what matters. As for expulsion of the two girls, that is simply ridiculous. There are much worse things to concentrate on in schools such as bullying, gangs, etc. This should be used as a teaching moment.. about the importance of taking care of one's self and living a healthy lifestyle. And yes, teenage girls should be told about self help exams. Cancer strikes any age, race, and sexual orientation. Knowledge is power.

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vicki allcorn

9:28 pm on Sunday, April 17, 2011

I WOULD MOST CERTAINLY ALLOW MY CHILDREN TO WEAR THESE BRACELETS! IN FACT I STUMBLED UPON THIS POST BECAUSE I WAS TRYING TO FIND A WAY TO PURCHASE THREE OF THEM. ONE FOR EACH OF MY DAUGHTERS AND MYSELF! AND I WILL NOT BE TELLING THEM TO REMOVE THEM BEFORE THEY GO TO SCHOOL OR ANYWHERE FOR THAT MATTER!!! IN FACT WHEN I READ THIS ALOUD TO MY DAUGHTERS, MY TEN YEAR OLD STATED THAT MANY OF THE FIFTH AND SIXTH GRADERS AT HER SCHOOL WEAR THEM EVERY DAY AND IT HASN'T BEEN AN ISSUE!!!
IT IS MY BELIEF THAT KNOWLEDGE IS POWER AND OUR YOUNG ONES NEED TO BE AWARE OF THE DANGERS THAT FACE THIER MOTHERS, SISTERS, AUNTS, COUSINS, FRIENDS, THEMSELVES... THEY NEED TO FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH TALKING ABOUT THE DESEASE. THE FACTORS THAT MAY AFFECT THIER PRE-DETERMINATION, THE WAYS IN WHICH THEY CAN DECREASE THIER POSSIBILITY OF CONTRACTING BREAST CANCER. AND... LETS MAKE THEM COMFORTABLE ENOUGH... PLEASE!!!... THAT THEY MIGHT UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF REGULAR SELF BREAST EXAMS!!!! THIS GOES FOR THE BOYS AS WELL BECAUSE THEY COULD BE PREACHING TO THIER LOVED ONES!!!!!
I SAY YES! YES! YES! SPREAD THE WORD!!! TELL THE CHILDREN!!! TEACH THEM WHEN THIER YOUNG AND IMPRESSIONABLE!!! BEFORE ITS TO LATE!!!!!

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Carl W

11:42 pm on Sunday, April 17, 2011

I am an adult male, & not a parent. When see those bands, 95% of the time I'm NOT thinking of breast cancer. I'm thinking what I'm sure every male is thinking about. (Perhaps talk around school brings up the cancer end more, however, not so great for teens to show such an opening to talk about breasts & ....are proceeds going to breast cancer research)?

All-in-all, I'd find a better promotional.

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Ianza Torres

12:58 am on Monday, April 18, 2011

The answer is of course! Yes I would let my daughters wear them. It obviously did the job of stirring up Breast cancer talk. And like others have said, Knowledge is Power. I find it wasteful that the school board is going to appeal the Judges decision. Complete waste of time and money. This is a Freedom of Speech issue, and we're in AMERICA folks, not China. There is nothing offensive about the phrase "I <3 boobies" and I don't necessarily think if you want to make breast cancer awareness paraphernalia , that it should be drenched in Pink. There's plenty of pink going around already. It's important to talk about women's health issues openly, and since teens spend a large majority of their time in school, it's good to have opportunities to talk about Breast cancer, cause sadly enough, there arent too many people out there that HASN'T been touched by this dreadful disease in one way shape or form. I think the people on the board who voted to appeal the decision should re-examine themselves, in more ways than one. Free yourselves from this prudish mentality, this arcane idea that breasts are taboo, that breasts are only for sexual pleasure, that the first thing you think about when you hear the word breast, boobies, tatas, etc. is a negative connotation. As a mother of 4, when I think of Breasts, I think of Breastfeeding. Teenagers will think with their hormones, but they also use their brains. Stop underestimating our youth, Not all ponder solely on things born of base nature.

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Tina Olson-Wilkins

1:21 am on Monday, April 18, 2011

Of course my kids wear them, 3 boys and my youngest a girl. One of their friends has an arm full of them. I think as long as they know they are supporting a cause, not just the sudden preteen realization that there are suddenly BOOBIES everywhere! If they carry this knowledge into their adulthood, they may be the one person who reminds their sister or wife to take care of their ta-tas, then it's all good :) (saucon valley)

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Tina Olson-Wilkins

1:28 am on Monday, April 18, 2011

BTW, as I read the other comments and as a fella ex-breast feeding mom(spent ten years on duty) some women are really uptight, are the same people who want you to feed your baby on a toilet at the store? My oldest used to ask for milk saying, "BOOBIE~YA!" By my fourth child, I had not a care in the world about someone seeing some flesh, remember I had young 3 boys to chase after as well :)
Liberation!

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Kathleen Muschlitz

7:40 am on Monday, April 18, 2011

I am one of 4 sisters all in our 40's. 2 have lost their "boobies" to cancer and 1 just had a scare. I would proudly wear an "I LOVE BOOBIES" bracelet and buy them for my Teenagers (14 and 17) and their friends to wear to school. They have first hand knowledge of Breast Cancer and have witnessed the affects on their Aunts. Most Upper Middle School and High School kids are tuned in to the meaning because there isn't a teen out there who hasn't had someone affected by this dreadful disease. Please give them some credit for using their own common sense.

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Limeport Resident

8:10 am on Monday, April 18, 2011

I don't understand the fuss. If teens giggle at the word boobie, they already know the meaning. It seems to be a fashion trend, one that has an annoyance to adults value which is a plus at that age. The fuss seems to be about poor parenting skills than problems about a bracelet. One can infer inappropriateness into almost anything. Should a pink tee shirt with Breast Awareness emblazoned at the appropriate height be banned? Easton never said what the distraction that was shown in class was. It would seem to me that these bands could provide teachable moments such as having respect of ones body, changes that occur at that age, sex awareness, breast cancer and even the dangers of adult men who think of sex 95% of the time when they see a pink band on the wrist of a young boy. Seems that parents should think about growing up; teens are doing a good job by themselves. Just think how much better it would be if parents contributed by not being so uptight.

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Pamela Miller

8:33 am on Monday, April 18, 2011

When have we lost all sense of good taste and class? I believe in supporting causes, however, we need to teach our children the difference between socially acceptable behavior/terminology and crude behavior/terminology. There are so many other socially appropriate methods for supporting causes.

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Michele

8:39 am on Monday, April 18, 2011

No. I wouldn't want my teenager wearing this bracelet. To me, and it's just my opinion, the bracelets trivialize a nasty disease. Wearing the bracelet - or a ribbon - doesn't mean that you are any more "aware" of breast cancer than someone not wearing the trendy accessories. It bothers me that breast cancer has become a fashion statement.

Instead of wearing the bracelet/ ribbon/ shirt or buying the pink-packaged products, wouldn't it be more useful to educate yourself about breast cancer instead of just being "aware"?

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Dillon Sievers

1:26 pm on Friday, May 4, 2012

for the few of us that are knowledgeable about cancer, how would others know that we are and be able to ask if we dont show it?hmm.

Wendy Young

9:15 am on Monday, April 18, 2011

I so agree with Limeport Resident. Much ado about nothing! If the adults had not made such a big deal out of it, chances are the kids would've gradually lost interest. The adults, with their outrage, negative interpretation and punishment, have only served to fan the flames. I applaud the kids and their conviction - they have the right to free speech too!

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Scott

9:51 am on Monday, April 18, 2011

First, these girls were not suspended or expelled. They were sent to an in school suspension room after they refused to remove the bracelets when told to do so by the principal. That would be my first issue if they were my child. If the principal told you to do something this reasonable and you refused then you would have to deal with me. Do it and make your point later. Two, schools need the authority to limit certain behaviors and articles of clothing to maintain order in the buildings. To me this bracelet crosses the line of what should be allowed. I have no problem with my daughter wearing the bracelet, as we support many causes including this one. I draw the line with wearing them to school. When you arrive at the door remove it and put it back on after the school day. No different than dress codes. Should we allow them to wear their bikini bathing suits to school...no, I have no problem with them at the beach or pool, But, I would not let her wear it to school. There are many issues with regard to safety, security, and orderly running of these school buildings that come up every day. This is one more issue that we should not make the school administrators have to deal with. You can participate in walks, 5K runs or any many other activities that support your cause. You do not have to make your point in the school building. Somewhere a line must be drawn as to what is appropriate. Our schools are not the place to make your stand. .

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Scott

9:51 am on Monday, April 18, 2011

Wear them proudly just not in school. Parents need to support school rules. Express yourself all you want in your out of school hours. Children need to learn limits. School dress codes are one of them. When you enter the work force there are appropriate ways to dress in offices, the military, police forces etc. The sooner they understand limits the better. They do not belong in schools. Should we allow gang clothing and paraphanelia because they are supporting their allegiance to their cause? I think not!

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Erin T

1:01 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

I absolutely agree with Scott...well said!! My daughter wears one. I have no problem with it but if she was told it was not appropriate at school then she would not wear it!

GCBAC

10:53 am on Monday, April 18, 2011

It's not like these bracelets say "I Love Tits". The less uptight this country becomes about the naked body, the better. I'm pretty sure no country in Europe would be having this 'controversy' over Boobie bracelets that are raising money for a Great Cause. Trivializing an awful disease can be good in 1 sense because all of us that have been horribly affected by Cancer could use a little lightness in our lives. Dealing with this disease every day can be incredibly intense! School rules are school rules, but the message should not be one that teaches children to suppress self expression, but one simply that like short skirts, cut off shorts, muscle shirts (in some schools) there are rules to be abided by in places like school. I think unless you live under a rock, everyone knows that these bracelets are not sexual in nature. It is my belief that no matter what, boys will find sex anywhere because that is all they think about for most of their lives, lol. The less uptight we all are about sex & the naked body, the less enamored children will be about it. It is interesting to check out the sexual crime statistics of countries who are much more open about sex & the naked body. There is less need for men or women to seek control of a person through sex because sex is something that is spoken about openly everywhere in countries like Italy, France, etc...underage sex is no joke, but "Boobie" bracelets & the like are not contributing to it. In my view, it's lack of parenting...

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Jenny Hayes Thompson

6:30 pm on Friday, September 7, 2012

Well said! Boobies is a light-hearted word; I think there are plenty of other words that refer to breasts that are more vulgar. Would there be a different reaction if it said, "I love bums or dupas?" I am a Breast Cancer Survivor and am proud that my son confidently wears his bracelet and would be happy to talk to anyone who asks about what it stands for. I agree that if a school makes a rule and asks a student to follow it (dress code, etc.) that the student should be respectful and do what is expected of them. We shouldn't be so suppressed about breasts, breast-feeding and normal female anatomy!

Jenn

10:54 am on Monday, April 18, 2011

If the school did not have a policy against said bracelets, I would certainly let my daughter wear them when she's old enough to understand the cause. However, if her school stated they were not allowed, or if the policy was silent and she was asked to remove the bracelets, I would support the school and its rules. There are other ways to support the cause without bringing an expensive lawsuit that will adversely affect the district and programs within it.

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Maria E. Gagliardi

11:17 am on Monday, April 18, 2011

LISA DREW....SO PROUD OF YOUR RESPONSE!!! THANK YOU!
I am a 9 year breast cancer survivor and a mother of 4 daughters. One can only imagine the horror I faced telling my 4 daughters that I was handing them a breast cancer legacy. Knowledge IS Power! Whatever raises awareness for this terrible disease is worthwhile in my opinion.
There are MUCH BIGGER fish to fry within our schools than an "I Love Boobies" breast cancer awareness bracelet. Let's concentrate on teaching our children the proper responses to REAL issues as sensitive as this bracelet this has been--teaching them empathy, compassion, understanding, cultural diversity and a general awareness of the fragility of the human lives that surround them. AGREED LISA, THIS IS A TEACHING MOMENT!

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Miller

11:41 am on Monday, April 18, 2011

YES i would and you know what im going to go pick up 2 of them for me and my daughter...we have the right to support breast cancer..this just goes to show that schools like to waste money on stupid things and not education

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Cheryl Saul

12:09 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

As a breast cancer survivor I detest these bracelets. For one, it has sexualized breast cancer. There is nothing cute or funny about my disease which can return with a vengeance at any point. So many say they want to support breast cancer, but don't you mean you want to support research for better treatments for it, and for cures??? UNless the proceeds go towards research all you will be supporting is more awareness about it, but nothing to eradicate it. Mammograms and breast self exams only bring about a diagnosis. Once you are diagnosed, even at an early stage, is no guarantee you will survive it.
The other thing about these bracelets is the "game" being played out with some of our youth who are wearing them. The kids aren't ALL wearing them to support breast cancer causes. Dig deep. Get honest answers and you will find there's whole other reason behind the wearing of these bracelets, one I'm sure you wouldn't want your kids to be messaging to each other.

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Miller

12:22 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

i repect that.. but i also support lupis. ive had so many friends and love ones die from these ..i wear and have on my car , two of my sons have autism and i do the same for them ..i do cause they need to find a cures for all of them ..i shoe my support any way i can.. and proud to do so.

Patricia Ziegler-Boccadoro

12:36 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

I'd let my child wear pretty much whatever he wanted within reason but, if he were to wear something to school that's not permitted per the handbook I'm siding with the school. Rules are in place for a reason and he needs to know, learn and respect that. Every place I've ever worked has had some sort of dress code in order - so yes, if he wanted to wear it in support fine (we've lost family members to breast cancer) - but not to school.

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Cheryl Saul

12:38 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

The other thing you need to be very careful about.... pushing the freedom Of Speech limits. Would you all wear, or let your children wear, Save the Bungholes, Protect The Poopshoots, or Squeeze Your Nuts bracelets? Sounds so crass? So low-class? So trashy? Well they could just show up on bracelets to support Anal Cancer, Colon Cancer or Prostate Cancer. When you open the "freedom" door for one, you open it wide for many others. You can also run the risk of desensitizing cancer. Please don't ever do that. The day that happens is the day our cancer death rates escalate from apathy.
Supporting any cancer or other medical disease in the fight to end it is most admirable, and I for one, will love you from the bottom of my heart for it. Just be careful how you do it.

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Swim

1:16 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

Seriously ...This is getting so much attention again why??? People, Parents, WAKE-UP...what happened...where have you been for the last 15years? You will allow your children / kids to disrespect you, do what they want to either be the cool parent or to avoid conflict. The dress code of the girls is far more distracting that a bracelet (last time I heard wrists were not on the top of the list re: boys) Music they have plugged in their ears
24/7??? When was the last time ya took a listen...This is a good cause, the shame is in your minds for putting it in theirs. Education on why these were being worn, and promoted. Praying for you to learn compassion from these girls...It takes alot of guts to be a teenage girl and be bold enough to support the Breast Cancer Cause ...They are mature far beyond their years.

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Limeport Resident

1:41 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

If the school had a clear policy against wearing jewelry and was able to justify it (e.g., leads to bullying, "If your parents loved you ..." or the ilk) then these kids should be punished. However, the punishment should be appropriate, e.g., write an essay on why the school was wrong etc. It would seem to me that teens need to learn respect even for themselves. To quietly fall in line because authority said so seems to be the wrong message. Inappropriate? Not to the [parents who brought the law suit. By the way, I passed the soup aisle in Sam's. A case of noodle soup was labelled with a pink ribbon with "pink together" as a slogan. Boycott Sams! If the school bans cell phones and a kid has an i-phone with a screen saver that says "I love boobies" should the teacher confiscated the phone and stomp on it. It would teach a lesson that authority has power. Freedom of speech should be limited? But not at save the bungholes. Seems parents need to teach their kids appropriate behavior and how to stand up against injustice. I wonder if the teen asked the teacher for a note that he/she could give to her parents outlining exactly was inappropriate, how the teacher would react. My guess they would bully the kid rather than answer an honest question.

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Carl W

6:42 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

Just a thought: Prostrate cancer. Would you - parents or not - like to see " like to see, "I (heart) Peteys?"

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Carl W

6:44 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

Parents, are you wearing the bracelets, too?

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Tom Coombe

7:01 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

Limeport: Venting is one thing. Actually wishing cancer on people is quite another.

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Limeport Resident

8:01 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

Tom: Of course you are right. Personal attacks add very little to the discourse. The issue is what role should the school play when speech is an issue. To me, it is not clear cut and needs to be taken in light of a broader perspective. E.g., I love Muslim bracelet might be offensive or can be taken as support freedom of religion. The school needs to develop a rational policy than take on an attititude that seems fraught with sexual phobia. As many said, if parents trusted their kids then this would probably not be an issue. This blog serves as a sounding board. It should permit sharp discussion. I agree that clearly personal attacks have no place except as a commentary on our societal norms. My regret is that so much time (including mine - but I use senility as an excuse) is devoted to this rather than the proposed cutbacks in funding of education, inadequate vouchers, will make our kids futures limited-- something we should be deeply interested in avoiding.

Keep up the good work. While I seem to disagree with many of the Moms, their opinions help clarify the issues. This is in itself a great contribution to our community. Thanks.

Oli Landwijt

7:36 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

How will our children become mature if we never give them any credit for thinking for themselves? Let the kids giggle. How long will that last? We all know what breasts are and where they are located. Seeing the message might become an every day occurence. The longer we treat our kids as babies, the longer they will remain babies.

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Carl W

8:11 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

They're children. They depend on us for guidance, so the can learn how to make good decisions.

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Jenny Hayes Thompson

6:41 pm on Friday, September 7, 2012

Good one. Breast Cancer Awareness is about encouraging women to do self exams and be vigilant against this disease, not to be embarassed about an amazing, life-giving part of our anatomy. Breast Cancer is awful and early detection saves lives. Boobies is like a 3-year-old's word! Silly

Erifili Draklellis

8:01 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

I don't see why this is such a big deal. I'm a sophomore at EHS. Of course, everyone wears it for different reason but we buy it because we know our money goes to a great cause. They aren't a distraction to our education. To us it's just a bracelet, just like the ones we see that say "love is the movement" or "lady gaga: born this way." Yes, I understand that when boys where the bracelets it brings up the question of their true actions, but honestly, haven't boys always loved "boobies?" I mean seriously, it's no shock that some guys wear it for that, but many really do wear the bracelets for their intended purpose: awareness. As for the two girls who were suspended, that's taking a petty little issue way too far. Focus on the kids who are actually causing problems, these girls weren't doing anything wrong and they didn't deserve this.

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Limeport Resident

8:08 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

Terrific! Someone who is in the age group that is affected logically explaining their position. Moms & Dads listen up. There is hope for your kids if you let them sort out their values. Transfer to SLSD. We the help with the parents here!

vicki allcorn

9:07 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

I WOULD MOST CERTAINLY ALLOW MY CHILDREN TO WEAR THESE BRACELETS! IN FACT I STUMBLED UPON THIS POST BECAUSE I WAS TRYING TO FIND A WAY TO PURCHASE THREE OF THEM. ONE FOR EACH OF MY DAUGHTERS AND MYSELF! AND I WILL NOT BE TELLING THEM TO REMOVE THEM BEFORE THEY GO TO SCHOOL OR ANYWHERE FOR THAT MATTER!!! IN FACT WHEN I READ THIS ALOUD TO MY DAUGHTERS, MY TEN YEAR OLD STATED THAT MANY OF THE FIFTH AND SIXTH GRADERS AT HER SCHOOL WEAR THEM EVERY DAY AND IT HASN'T BEEN AN ISSUE!!!
IT IS MY BELIEF THAT KNOWLEDGE IS POWER AND OUR YOUNG ONES NEED TO BE AWARE OF THE DANGERS THAT FACE THIER MOTHERS, SISTERS, AUNTS, COUSINS, FRIENDS, THEMSELVES... THEY NEED TO FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH TALKING ABOUT THE DESEASE. THE FACTORS THAT MAY AFFECT THIER PRE-DETERMINATION, THE WAYS IN WHICH THEY CAN DECREASE THIER POSSIBILITY OF CONTRACTING BREAST CANCER. AND... LETS MAKE THEM COMFORTABLE ENOUGH... PLEASE!!!... THAT THEY MIGHT UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF REGULAR SELF BREAST EXAMS!!!! THIS GOES FOR THE BOYS AS WELL BECAUSE THEY COULD BE PREACHING TO THIER LOVED ONES!!!!!
I SAY YES! YES! YES! SPREAD THE WORD!!! TELL THE CHILDREN!!! TEACH THEM WHEN THIER YOUNG AND IMPRESSIONABLE!!! BEFORE ITS TO LATE!!!!!
I posted this at 9:30pm EST last night but after reading the multitude of responses I felt I had to re-post before I said my next piece...

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vicki allcorn

9:16 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

I was shocked by the remarks I read about other forms of Cancer! They have been offensive and abusive to the sufferers and survivers in my opinion!!! By the way YES!!! The proceeds from the sales of these braclets do indeed go towards the cause. Just as wearing them brings awareness. But I wont repeat myself.
I do want to say however that today I got on the phone and net with my family and have since taken requests from my mother, sister, husband, both brothers, my daughters boyfriend, four cousins, my daddy, my poppa and my step son for bracelets!!! My family will be spreading the word!!! KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!!! EDUCATE OUR CHILDREN BEFORE 'GOD FORBIDE' IT'S TOO LATE!!! TEACH THE THEM GOOD MORAL VALUES OF STANDING UP FOR OTHERS!!! DON'T TWIST THIS INTO SOMETHING REDICULOUS!!!
PEACE AND LOVE!!!

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Cheryl Saul

10:48 am on Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Vicki, were you referring to my post about the doors that will open with the freedom of speech to make bracelets for other types of cancer? If so, now you now how offended I feel by these bracelets. I am a stage II, high grade, triple negative, 2cm tumor Infiltrating Ductal Carcinoma survivor( The BAD breast cancer. The one that will come back and metastasize and kill me). At one time I thought these type of campaigns were great and clever.... any way to bring light to the cause was okay by me. But then I learned the other side to it. Some of the bracelets are being used for the cause. Some are worn because people like the sexual side of it, Some of the bracelets are counterfeits, which means NO money goes to the cause, and there's one bracelet, Feel Your Boobies, made by the Feel Your Boobies Foundation who's soul mission is to just sell them to make more, to sell to make more.....in what the owner claims is awareness to the cause, but stated(and I have a written response from the owner) that she gives not one penny to research or helps one cancer patient in the fight.
I see this happening with so many organizations who are selling products, all in the name of awareness, but gives nothing towards finding cures, better treatments, or helping the suffering through things like free or low cost testing, wigs for chemo patients, counselling, etc.

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Cheryl Saul

10:49 am on Tuesday, April 19, 2011

I see this happening with so many organizations who are selling products, all in the name of awareness, but gives nothing towards finding cures, better treatments, or helping the suffering through things like free or low cost testing, wigs for chemo patients, counselling, etc.
I propose that we offer up a replacement bracelet where proceeds are split to awareness, research, and assistance to patients. One that is less controversial. Those who are truly sincere in their desire to support should have no trouble swapping out the new bracelet for a less appropriate one. Those who do have a problem with it and won't wear the new one probably weren't wearing it for the right reasons to begin with.

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Cheryl Saul

10:49 am on Tuesday, April 19, 2011

I'm going to give you links to some articles written about this subject, and most of them are by cancer patients, survivors, or folks who are or have cared for cancer patients. May it be that their words will open your hearts to understand this isn't all about you all wanting to spread awareness. It's about us, and maybe you, wanting to live.
http://butdoctorihatepink.blogspot.com/2011/04/i-heart-boobies-controversy.html?spref=fb
http://www.nj.com/parenting/guest_bloggers/index.ssf/2010/12/i_heart_boobies_the_perspectiv.html
http://ihatebreastcancer.wordpress.com/2011/04/03/squeeze-the-charmin-not-the-boobies%E2%80%A6/
http://bethlgainer.blogspot.com/2011/03/sexualizing-breast-cancer.html
http://gaylesulik.com/?p=6605
http://www.latimes.com/news/opinion/commentary/la-oe-orenstein-boobies-20110419,0,7726424.story

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Jenny Hayes Thompson

6:45 pm on Friday, September 7, 2012

Amen sista! As a Breast Cancer Survivor (coming up on 5 years) and neice of two breast cancer victims (one male), this is ridiculous! My son wears his with pride (but not to school because of this crazy Easton incident!). Feel your BOOBIES--early detection saves lives!!

Erifili Draklellis

9:51 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

We're just kids. We don't mean any harm by the bracelets. We honestly do care about this issue and many others. We aren't trying to use the bracelet as a way to make fun of breast cancer or use it as a fashion statement or anything of that nature. So many women in my family have this disease or are in remission or are completely cancer free and when I see a pink wristband or an I love boobies bracelet or a pink ribbon on a backpack at school, it makes me think of them. That's all they're for, AWARENESS that there's a horrible disease out there and many fight and struggle with it everyday. And if one kid wears it for the wrong reasons? SO WHAT? That's one person, who shouldn't represent a whole group of people. It's like saying "oh, this teenage girl is pregnant, so every teenage girl is like her." It's not right to judge us just because a few teenage boys are immature now.

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Katie Gangewere

10:45 pm on Monday, April 18, 2011

My answer is yes. Sometimes young adults and teens need a "light hearted" way to express themselves on serious subjects. Could a few wear them for reasons other than awareness or fund raising , of course but if this is the worst thing that they do....BRING IT! I think it is situations like this that take focus away from the real issues that teens and parents face. In most cases it is the adults that make a bigger deal out of things such as this and actually turn these things into distractions. (Most of the time it is because they are uncomfortable with the subject at hand).

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Mark Albright

8:37 am on Tuesday, April 19, 2011

As an active member of the Greater Lehigh Valley chapter of the ACLU, which supports the Plaintiffs in the EASD case, I was a bit troubled by some of the comments on this thread, but having read Erifili Draklellis' articulate, impassioned comments on the subject, it's clear to me that she and her friends - who are the intended target audience for this particular advertising/education/advocacy campaign - truly "get it". Are there other ways of capturing teenagers' attention on this issue? Of course there are, but that's not the point. The question is what really gets through to this age group. Erifili has made it clear that this controversial medium works, and works quite effectively, to convey critical info on a public health topic of vital concern to her generation.

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Lisa Drew

10:54 am on Tuesday, April 19, 2011

We have become a society that buys things based on how good it looks or how catchy it may be. The dollar spent to buy the bracelets goes toward research to end the horrific diseases such as cancer. In addition, it also raises awareness. In addition, it might give someone the idea to donate more money other than a dollar. This is a good thing. If you listen to your middle/high schooler they will come home telling you far worse things than the word "boobies". Bottom line is women have breasts and men have penises, both have other nicknames attached to them. So what. Again, educate your kids so that they are informed with correct information instead of being told incorrect info from their friends. Most kids are buying the bracelets to support causes and genuinely believe they are doing a good thing in raising awareness for that particular cause. There are grown adults that laugh at the word boobies and other nicknames for body parts. That's on them. Erifili, thank you for giving us your comments which were eloquently stated.

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Lisa Drew

11:05 am on Tuesday, April 19, 2011

In the future, be informed on where you purchase bracelets, tshirts, mugs, etc. Make sure the organization you are purchasing them from does actually put the money toward research, patient care, etc. Educate yourselves and your families. I can't say it enough: Knowlege is power!

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Cheryl Saul

11:07 am on Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Thank you from the bottom of my heart of posting that!!!

Melissa Morgan

4:08 pm on Tuesday, April 19, 2011

I am amazed that the the adults in this community truly think so little of our teenage population. I am the parent of two teenagers, 19 yr old boy and 13 yr old girl both who wear these bracelets with pride and understanding. I sat down and talked to my children about what they mean, what they are for and used it also as a tool to talk to my 13 yr old daughter about how to do her own self exam and why. We as a society appear to focus on such insignificant things. As parents, schools, villages we are hear to teach our children and guide them on their journey. Give them some credit. As with anything there are bad apples in the group that do things for all the wrong reasons. That happens in every area of life. If these young people find it easier to talk about a difficult subject by saying "I love boobies" then let them...at least they are talking about it. More people have been effect by cancer than not. Teenagers are no different. However, all this talk about this subject whether for or against continues to raise awareness of a tragic and horrific disease that I have watched take the lives of so many close to me.

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Jennifer Elston

9:21 pm on Tuesday, April 19, 2011

I think I should have prefaced my original response with the fact that both my children are young--ages 7 & 3. While I do believe knowledge is power, there is no way I am talking to my kids about cancer right now. When the time comes, I will sit them down and have an open and honest discussion with them. So, with that being said, I would not let my young kids wear the bracelet. At my kids' ages it doesn't make sense to let them wear it. However, as I have been pondering this topic over the last couple of days I decided I would support my kids if they chose to wear them when they got older. A discussion would ensue and my kids would be wearing them for the right reason. Boobies is not an obscene word per say, but it isn't quite appropriate to flaunt the word all over public. I still believe that the school district has a right to keep the bracelets out of it's schools. I would support the school's rules--it teaches children that society has rules that need to be followed even when we disagree with them. I still believe there is a more tactful way to support breast cancer funding. I am in no way a prude either. :) I hope we can all agree to disagree cordially here!

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Kerry M.

10:06 pm on Tuesday, April 19, 2011

I came across this board when I "googled" these bracelets. I had no idea what they were when my 9 year old son came home wearing one. My initial reaction was that it was completely inappropriate. Now that I know that they are for breast cancer awareness, I'm not as concerned. But the fact still remains that he is a 9 year old boy and if my first reaction to the bracelet was such, I'm sure that would be the reaction of others as well. I like the idea that LMMS had for breast cancer awareness. There's no reason to go for the shock value when kids are being faced with so many other issues that are beyond their years, in my opinion. My son and I will be having a good talk tomorrow afternoon, I'm glad I came across this page! Luckily my son likes to collect awareness bracelets and doesn't seem to care about actually wearing them, so the point is moot. But I still want him to understand the message.

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Debra

4:54 pm on Thursday, April 21, 2011

It's a bracelet and a bracelet is not a distraction, unless of course it is flying through the air at someones head. I'm sorry but let's have the schools worry about something that is a bit more important rather than a trivial bracelet. People feel that the word Boobies is such a lewd word, have you given thought that maybe the kids are more comfortable with that term than saying a breast? Or why is Boobies wrong but Ta-Ta's is okay? Seems people are not happy unless they have something to complain about.

If anyone finds that these bracelets are actually a distraction then please tell me how you feel about these girls wearing skirts/dresses that barely cover their butts, shirts cut down to there or the boys with their pants almost down around their ankles and their underwear hanging out. Now THOSE are distractions, I can guarantee you that no kid out there is sitting at their desk thinking about Janie's bracelet while her clothing barely covers her. Seems the schools priorities are totally mixed a bit of what is important.

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Scott

9:30 pm on Thursday, April 21, 2011

That's the point. The authority of the schools to regulate dress codes and to make rules have been undermined by the parents that insist that Johnny and Janie should be able to express themselves in any manner the want to. Lets get an attorney and file a lawsuit over trivial crap has led to the situation that exists in our schools. You can no longer discipline or set rules.

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J. Drew Stefancin

10:43 am on Sunday, April 24, 2011

It's not that I wouldn't let my kid wear it because it's not a cause worth supporting. I wouldn't want my kid to wear them because I think they're tacky, ineffective and cause more of a ruckus with children than anything else.

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II Unknown II

10:32 pm on Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Honestly, I'm not a parent, I'm an 11 year-old girl. I have two of my own and I wear them for the right reason. If you flip them inside out the say "Keep-A-Breast" Meaning don't let a woman be taken away by breast cancer. Tons of kids in my school have them. If kids want to wear them for the wrong reason, let them, that's their problem. The company is a non-profitable organization to make younger people aware of Breast Cancer.

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bob

8:12 am on Saturday, January 28, 2012

I see nothing wrong with the "I love boobies" saying. It's a joke people think it's cute and there's nothing sexual about it. It's for breast cancer awareness kids are not trying to tell people how much they love peoples boobies.
And I'm also a 13 year old boy.

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bob

8:26 am on Saturday, January 28, 2012

What I don't understand is that you are so concerned over your young kids seeing the word boobies than you are them seeing commercials for S-T-I/S-T-D I don't like my 9 year old brother seeing those. How would you react if your kids came home wearing an “I hate s-t-is" sign would you say everyone should know about that. What about breast cancer

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sarah mcdawn

6:10 pm on Saturday, May 19, 2012

i am a fifteen year old girl and i have breast cancer and i just got my "boobies" bracelet taken away. i wear mine all the time i think that not all people see the bracelet and think of it sexually and some say that it has to be pink but it shouldnt have to because not all men who have had brest cancer want to be represented by pink having it in all colors allows us to be able to support not just girls but men too as for it being a distraction in school it wouldnt be if the were allowed people wouldnt make a big deal if everyone was wearing them my granpa is a cancer surviver and he wears a "boobies" bracelet too

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Jenny Hayes Thompson

6:55 pm on Friday, September 7, 2012

Good for you! Thank you for pointing out the [not so obvious] fact that men have breasts too and that they need to be aware of their [small] chance of Breast Cancer too! My uncle was diagnosed last year and had a mastectomy; he won't be caught dead wearing a pink bracelet and why should he? Good luck in your battle. (survivor, almost 5 years)

Elizabeth

10:17 pm on Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Of COURSE they're a distraction to teenage kids. Someone tried to capitalize on the rubber bracelet market and the people who wear them the most are teen boys. I have yet to see an adult professional, male or female, wearing one - and I live in a big city! Here's my thought - I have a 15 year old stepson whose mother allows him to wear it. He is an only child in their house. We have three young girls in our house, who we are trying to raise up to be aware of how much the world pressures girls to look sexy, act sexy, talk sexy ... and that in our family, we don't act like those girls. We want our girls to be strong from the inside out - not get their self-esteem from guys telling them how sexy they are - specifically, teen boys. ANYWAY, there is so much breast cancer awareness out there, it's hardly something most people aren't aware of. So I came up with a great marketing idea myself - how about, for prostate cancer awareness, I wear a bracelet that reads, 'I love penises'? Or 'I love balls'? Now if that caught on and my girls were allowed to wear them to school, what would they look like? As my husband says to his son, you have little sisters, and you need to show respect to the female body parts. He said he understands that he thinks it's cool, but if he really wants to do something about breast cancer, then we will complete a breast cancer walk, or something like that.

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Lucy Little

7:33 pm on Friday, May 17, 2013

Say it LOUD, say it PROUD!!!

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